Commiting to a marriage is a lifelong commitment. A life long journey. When two people give their hearts to each other and profess their vows, they are commiting to share their life. An selfless love. Be it a huge wedding celebration or an intimate promise to each each other, marriage carries the same sacrifice of selflessness. Somehow, somewhere along this journey some couples no longer believe in their marriage or in each other. Many a times, even the most perfect couple will think to themselves "I cant do this anymore" and imagine fleeing into a secret world where the sun shines forever, where there is perpetual peace, abundant happiness, no suffering or worry. Well, this world does not exist here on earth. But yes, there is a place like this. In heaven, our real home.

Many couples decide to go their own ways when they think selfishly "what about my happiness?", "what about my needs?". Being together with your other half becomes a burden. But there will always be one party that loves more than the other. If there is a mutual agreement between the two that it is indeed better for them to part, then going separate ways is a relief. But as long as one party still closes their eyes and can only see the other, think of the other all the time, wishes the other was around with them, replays every memory together, hurts in silence; separation is not a relief but a death wish.

Ask the Lord to help you mend your broken heart. Seek guidance in the silence of the Lord. He will give you the signs you need. And give you the strength you need. Let Him carry you.


- philoism

Asking for forgivenesss is making peace with yourself. It does not matter if the response is a "yes, I forgive you" or "no, I cannot forgive you". Irregardless of the response, knowing that something negative happened either within or out of control; had left someone out there hurt. Realising this from within, first forgive oneself. Forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be in that situation. Accept that it was done, past. No one can turn back time. It is not repairable. Let it go.

Open your heart and make peace within yourself. Tell the person that you are hurt because he/she is hurt. Seeking forgiveness is never too late. Forgiving is never too late. We may not be worthy of forgiveness, but that is not our burden to carry. The burden becomes heavy when remorse, repent, hurt, pain is not realised because of human ego, pride, anger that clouds the mind.

Make peace within by letting go, forgive yourself, ask for forgiveness.

Do not carry the weight of the response upon your shoulders should the other party refuse to accept your apology. The burden is not yours to carry anymore. Surrender it to the Almighty.


- philoism

I heard it in your voice when your love died
On a telephone connection stretching miles and miles of wire
You said it was over and then cried and cried
You were gone before I said goodbye

I don't like to think it is true
That distance came between us like a knife and cut right through
Where did we go wrong and let it all undo?
The only one I ever loved was you

Would you stay just a little, my love?
Would you sway just a little, my love?
Because the hole in the middle of my heart needs filling up
If you stay just a little, that's enough

It kills me as I lay awake at night
Remembering the last kiss that we shared doesn't feel right
Is it impossible for me to win this fight?
Keep you a little longer in my life

- Kina Grannis

Love and Reason dont go together
Love without Reason
Love for Reason, is not Love
Reason for Love, is not Love

For in Love, there is no Reason

- philoism

I wish I was strong enough to lift
Not one but both of us
Someday I will be strong enough to lift
Not one but both of us

- Taylor Swift

There is a time for everything,and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

- Ecclesiastes 3:1

And all becomes clear. Wish I could make you see this brightness. Don't worry, all is well. All is so perfectly, damnably well. I understand now, that boundaries between noise and sound are conventions. All boundaries are conventions, waiting to be transcended. One may transcend any convention, if only one can first conceive of doing so. Moments like this, I can feel your heart beating as clearly as I feel my own, and I know that separation is an illusion. My life extends far beyond the limitations of me.

- Cloud Atlas

I wish I could stretch out my arms
And keep you safe in my embrace
I wish I could kiss your forehead
And tell you that things are going to be fine
I wish I could hold your hand
And make you see that I will be here with you
I wish I could comfort you
And let you weep upon my chest
I wish I could be there for you
And take away all your sorrow

- CJ

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. 

- Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994

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- philoism

I still remember the first time you looked at me.
I was confused and I had never expected that you would feel the same about me.
You gave me these butterflies when you smiled.
I couldn’t help but to smile back.
It was a smile that was rarely on my face. It was only because of you.

You called me beautiful, held my hand and locked our fingers together.
You pulled me towards you in a warm embrace.
You gave me these butterflies when you looked at me.
I couldn’t help but to blush and look down.

Ever so tender, you placed your hand below my chin and lifted it up for my lips to meet yours.
I haven’t had this much butterflies in my stomach with anyone before.
How did you do this?

This feeling of happiness mixed with confusion as my insecurities go crumbling down.
It only happens when I’m with you.
Every time you say “I love you”, these butterflies that you give me become wild.

You’re the reason I can feel this.
It’s a beautiful sensation.
It’s all just with you.

- CJ

Feelings are just carved in the heart. No matter how much our memory fails us at times in remembering things, we can never forget how we really felt at an exact moment with a certain person.

Treat people the way you want to be treated and be considerate.
Be thoughtful.
Be selfless.
You don't know if you had hurt someone and made yourself an enemy, or if you had comforted a heart and just made an admirer for life.